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Antisocial Media Part II

In September I wrote a blog called ‘Antisocial Media’, about my negative and wholly unhealthy relationship with my Bird Therapy Twitter account. This week I found myself having another Twitter meltdown and once again it led to me questioning what it is about social media that I find so difficult to manage.

Fundamentally, it’s my obsessive tendencies and delusions of grandeur that start the negative cycle. I post something, believing that I have a given right for it to be popular and therefore, when it doesn’t prove to be – I take it as some kind of personal attack. This is a mixture of the paranoia and inflated sense of responsibility that come with my mental health issues.

I received some feedback on my writing that I perceived as negative (although principally it wasn’t) and this led to me rapid-fire posting on Twitter to seek reassurances on what I’ve been doing. I then couldn’t cope with the lack of response and interaction that I received and my mood and anxieties spiralled downwards.

I came to a realisation that I had become reliant on Twitter for social interaction and reassurance. This was the reason I came off Facebook five years ago and it just isn’t a healthy way to be. I kept checking my Twitter repeatedly – obsessively – so much, in fact, that when I removed the Twitter application from my phone I had an involuntary reflex to go to the space that was left on my phone.

So, I’ve made a decision to stop posting on Twitter over Christmas and spend this time re-evaluating why I’m writing and exploring the topic. I hope that this can help me to maintain a more positive approach to social media. Hopefully I will return stronger and more in control of it.

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Three thoughts on “Antisocial Media Part II”

Chris Rowe

The perils of social media! You could post the solution to all the world’s problems and it would be ignored, but post a picture of a cat doing something and it will go viral. Getting people to follow and respond to blogs or twitter takes a certain skill - too much and people turn off, too little and you get lost amongst all the others. Bear in mind that twitter followers are pretty fickle. Better to have quality rather than quantity. Take a look at some twitter accounts - they have millions of followers but the engagement is astonishing low as a percentage. My tiny bit of advice? People like pictures. Oh, and tag your blogposts like billyho.


Hi Social media means different things to different people. Because of my anxiety, especially around people and lack of confidence I often find it easier to post comments rather than talking face to face. I often just like reading posts and subsequent comments even if I don’t comment myself. I feel I’m sort of joining in, almost eves dropping on other people’s conversations - like listening to a chat whilst waiting at the bus stop!

Martin Wood

I hope you do come back at some point enjoyed reading your post. Was it you who write the article in BirdWatch. It was a very good arctle. Two half years ago I had a bad turn got stressed and depressed as back in 2010 my nephew was killed by a IED in afganistan and all of a sudden in May 2015 on what would of been is 25th birthday everthing just hit me and I coukd not cope with work and stuff . My bird watching as really helped me. My point is that reading your stuff also helps. My wife tells me that I spend to much time on twitter . All the best and have a good Christmas the best you can.